Blue Jobs, Pink Jobs | Two Adults Running a Household
Blue Jobs, Pink Jobs is a guide for couples who want to stop guessing, stop arguing, and start agreeing on who does what in their household.
It is written by Laura Racky and Christian Cunningham, a couple with two kids, sharing the actual split they use to run their home. Every task is listed, every responsibility is assigned, and every decision is explained. This is how it works in their house, laid out honestly so you can use it as a starting point for your own.
Because the truth is, most of the friction in a household with kids comes from the invisible stuff. The mental load. The remembering. The noticing. The planning. And the resentment that builds when one person feels like they are carrying everything while the other person has no idea how much is actually going on. Having these things agreed well in advance takes so much heat out of a relationship. Nobody is chasing, nobody is guessing, and nobody is quietly keeping score.
Who is it for?
Any couple sharing a household, especially those with kids. This guide is particularly useful for women who feel like the mental load is sitting mostly on them and want a practical way to open the conversation with their partner. It works for new parents figuring it out for the first time, established couples who have never formalised their split, or anyone who just wants to feel like both people are pulling their weight.
What's included?
The download is a professionally formatted PDF containing:
An introduction explaining why this conversation matters, how to approach it without blame, and why your split should reflect your strengths rather than your upbringing or what other people do
A full example split from Laura and Christian across every area of household life, including kids, babies and toddlers, food and kitchen, household cleaning, money and admin, house and maintenance, pets, morning routine, medical and wellbeing, life and social, and the mental load
Each task includes who does it and a detailed note explaining why and how it works for them, with real stories and personal detail
A complete blank template covering every category so you can sit down with your partner and fill in your own split
A conversation guide with prompts for how to start the discussion, how to divide fairly, how to check the balance, and how to maintain it over time
How does it work?
Read through the example split together. Use the blank template to map out your own. Have the conversation. Revisit it every few months as life changes.
Why does it matter?
Because nobody should be silently upset or overwhelmed while the other person has no idea. Having a clear, agreed split means both people feel like adults in a partnership. No chasing, no resentment, no guilt. Just two people running a household together.
